i have a friend. she is lesbian. she has had a few girlfriends over the years, and she has a girlfriend right now. she plays soccer in with other people from school, and she’s good friends with one of the guys on her team, brad. but, for some reason, other people at school have decided that my friend is actually straight, but that she just doesn’t know it yet. they go on and on and on about how in love she is with brad. when my friend posts photos of herself and her girlfriend on twitter or instagram, they just tell her how great brad is, how she secretly loves him, how they are meant to be together. they tell my friend that she’s straight, and joke about being supportive of whenever she comes to terms with her sexuality. it’s funny, because she has already come to terms with her sexuality: she’s homosexual. and yet, people still harass her mercilessly about brad. she tries not to let it get to her, but it has been going on for well over a year. it’s pretty fucked up, right? the people who care about her and want her to be happy don’t throw the brad stuff in her face, but there are so many other people that just won’t let it go.

sound familiar? maybe because it’s exactly the same as what you’re doing to lauren. if she was gay and people were trying to convince her she was straight, y’all would burn the city down because that would be so incredibly homophobic. but doing the opposite is the same thing

lovemelike-camren:

Camila and Dinah basically hump each other in front of the camera and were like “aw omg such a cute friendship” and Lauren and Camila make eye contact for .2 seconds and suddenly were like “omg they totally had sex last night and talked about their entire future together for hours because their bunks are next to each other and omfg camren”

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The 50 Best Questions Ever

1. What is one thing you will never do again?
Ziplining. That shit was awful.

2. Would you rather be twice as smart or twice as happy?
Twice as happy. No question

3. What happened the last time you cried?
I honestly can’t remember the last time I cried. I’ve just been numb for the last few months - no major highs or lows. 

4. What happened the time in your life when you were the most nervous to do something?
Telling my grandma about my depression. I had chosen not to tell her any of it, and had been lying to her for years.

5. What would your parents be surprised to learn about you?
How bad some days got. Like I’d tell them when things were getting worse, but I never really told them when I’d hit rock bottom.

6. What’s your worst habit?
I absolutely hate confrontation. I’ll be silently miserable for years and just let things fester to avoid having to actually speak up about something. 

7. What superpower would you have for one day?
I would love to be able to read people’s minds. Or maybe teleport. 

8. What fictional character do you have the biggest crush on?
Gotta go with high-school Nathan Scott. 

9. Where would you live if you could live anywhere in the world?
A mansion in Los Angeles.

10. What is your most bizarre pet peeve?
Cotton balls. I hate them so much.

11. Who knows you the best?
I don’t think anyone really knows all of the “true” me, but I guess my friend Katie would be closest. 

12. What after school activities did you do in high school?
Just about everything…I was that girl: student body vice president, captain of the basketball team, homecoming princess, prom committee, debate team, cross country, spirit commissioner.

13. What “most likely to” superlative would you be most honored to receive?
I would have liked to have gotten “most likely to win a Grammy” but I can’t sing in front of people, so….#awk. I actually won “most likely to bleed red and blue” (our school colors)

14. What’s the last book you really loved?
The Perks of Being A Wallflower

15. What was the greatest television show of all time?
One Tree Hill. 

16. What’s been your favorite age so far?
I think 17 was the easiest year. 

17. If you could go back in time, what is one piece of advice you would give your younger self?
I would tell 5-year-old me to take advantage of every second you have with Grandpa. You only have a couple years left with him, but he will inspire you for the rest of your life. 
I would tell 10-year-old me that no, you didn’t do anything to deserve the kids being so mean to you.
I would tell 14-year-old me not to quit soccer. I’d tell her how talented she was and how she could get a college scholarship if she just kept playing.
I would tell 15-year-old me not to stop dancing. She’ll regret it for the rest of her life.
And I would tell 18-year-old me that it will get better. Write the letters, walk out to the bridge, then turn around and walk back. The hurt you feel, the emptiness that seems like it will never end; it will all get better. You’re going to get through this, you’re going to fight through this. Let yourself feel everything you need to feel, listen to as many hours of music as you need to, but never, never give up. In a few months, you’re going to fly your ass across the country to a Demi Lovato concert in Cleveland, and those 2 hours of music will remind you why you fought so hard. You’ll spend the night in a room full of strangers, and know that you are a warrior. You fought through everything, and you won. You are a warrior. 

18. What one thing would you be most disappointed if you never got to experience it?
Someone telling me I’ve changed their life for the better. 

19. Apologize or ask permission?
Usually permission. 

20. Unlimited love or money?
Honestly, money. I know that sounds horrible but I already have the love. 

21. If you knew you would die in one week, what would you do?
Spend the last week of my life making as many dreams come true as possible. 

22. What’s your most listened to song?
Hall of Fame - The Script

23. Beach vacation or European vacation?
European

24. If you could have been a child prodigy what would you have wanted to be skilled at?
Singing

25. What’s the first thing you would do if you won the lottery?
Book Fifth Harmony for an afternoon, just to hang out. 

26. What celebrity would you trade lives with?
Jacob Artist. I’d be able to sing, dance, act, and I’d be one sexy individual. 

27. If you were a performing artist, what would you title your first album?
Strong

28. What story do your friends still give you crap about?
Crashing a dirtbike into a barbed wire fence.

29. If earth could only have one condiment for the rest of time, what would you pick to keep around?
Sweet Baby Ray’s BBQ sauce

30. What is the ideal number of people to have over on a Friday night?
3

31. What was the worst age you’ve been so far?
18 was by far the hardest year of my life. 

32. What is your weirdest dealbreaker?
Long hair. I really hate guys with long hair. 

33. What fictional character reminds you most of yourself?
Charlie, from Perks of Being A Wallflower

34. Do you believe in karma?
Not really. Too many bad things have happened to innocent people.

35. What was your favorite TV show as a kid?
BARNEY WAS MY SHIT.

36. What is the weirdest thing you find attractive in a person?
I can’t think of anything weird…I like generic. Abs, eyes, arms, sense of humor, hygiene. 

37. What Jeopardy! category would you clear, no problem?
Fandoms

38. What is something you’re superstitious about?
I’m not really superstitious. I’m just scared of everything. 

39. What is the scariest experience you have ever had?
My high school got bombed during my sophomore class, and the first bomb went off right outside my classroom. 

40. Who is a non-politician you wish would run for office?
Ellen. 

41. What cheesey song do you have memorized?
Literally half my iTunes library is memorized. Cheesiest would probably be Vamos A La Playa. 

42. What one dead person would you most like to have dinner with, if it were possible?
My grandpa.

43. Do you think it’s important to stay up to date with the news?
I guess so. 

44. What is the best present you’ve ever received?
I don’t really know. I guess my playstation. 

45. Would you give up one of your fingers if it meant you’d have free wifi wherever you go, for the rest of your life?
No. I need every finger I have for writing and basketball. 

46. What’s the first thing you’d do if you were the opposite sex for one day?
Dunk a basketball. 

47. If someone told you you could give one person a present and your budget was unlimited–what present would you get and for whom?
I would get my mom a private jet so she could visit her mom in Ireland whenever she wants.

48. What is the nicest thing someone could say about you?
That I’m a good singer.

49. Giant house in a subdivision or tiny house somewhere with a view?
Tiny house with a view. 

50. What is the weirdest quirk your family has?
My dad is obsessed with safety. He’s a bit paranoid. 

hypnomaniac:

i literally do not understand why anybody would cheat on their partner like if you really feel the need to be with somebody else in the same way as you currently are with your partner, be a decent human being and end your relationship to save the person you supposedly love a whole world of unnecessary pain rather than be a piece of shit and break their heart 

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Divergent “Rape” Scene

I came across this article this morning, written by lalondes, and just wanted to share my thoughts. While I agree with the sentiment of the article, as someone who has read the books, all these responses to Divergent congratulating the producers on making a strong anti-sexual assault scene are incredibly frustrating.

Tris was not meant to be afraid of rape, sexual assault, or any sort of aggression. Tris was meant to be afraid of intimacy - both emotional and physical. The way that intimacy was portrayed in her fear landscape was through a sexual interaction with Four/Tobias. She has lived the first sixteen years of her life in a society that has little to no contact, physical or emotional, which is the foundation of that fear of intimacy. Naturally, her first experiences with any level of open-ness will spark an immense fear. 

The scene and the fear, as they were written, were not about aggression. They were not about date rape. They were not about consent. They were not about saying no, and having a sexual partner listen. They were not about the physical act of sex. Sex was merely the device used to portray the idea of intimacy. To me, changing the scene like they did, quite frankly, was a Hollywood sellout. A scene of a girl defending herself from date rape will garner much larger responses than a girl fearing intimacy. The simple-minded viewers, which are often the same simple-minded critics reviewing the film, want a strong female heroine that can defend herself from anything - even a big strong man trying to rape her. In the producers’ decision to make an intimacy scene a rape scene, they lost sight of the human being that was Tris. Fear of rape isn’t anything special. To be clear, I am in no way, shape or form discounting the severity of sexual assault. As a survivor of sexual assault, I more than understand the magnitude. What separated Tris’ fear was the fact that it was what society - now and futuristic dystopian Chicago - doesn’t recognize as a “legitimate fear”. Rape is globally accepted as a legitimate fear. Sexual assault is globally accepted as a legitimate fear. A young girl’s hesitations to be physically and emotionally open and vulnerable with someone else is, arguably, more common, but never recognized in popular media.

Ultimately, yes. The scene did capture a strong girl fending off a sexual assault. But the scene was never about that. A scene that was supposed to show the even more realistic fear of intimate vulnerability, using sex as the physical means to demonstrate that intimacy, became nothing more than just another rape scene.

"i was reborn from the ashes" is so much more badass than "i’ll never be that girl again". like instead of just saying oh yeah, you changed me, it’s like. YOU THOUGHT I WAS A PILE OF DIRT, DIDN’T YOU? NOPE. I’M GOING ALL FAWKES ON YOUR ASS AND COME RISING OUT OF THESE ASHES, MOTHERFUCKER.

its-taylorswifts:

roses are red

violets are blue

this doesn’t rhyme

but taylor sold out a concert in five seconds

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living-in-the-sound-of-silence asked: Hello, I just saw what you posted about my m&g photo with fifth harmony. I just wanted to say thank you, I really appreciate it! And yes I realize that I misspelled it after the photo was taken. I was so nervous that I forgot how to spell OMG

hahaha no worries! it’s a beautiful photo - by far one of my favorite m&g pics i’ve ever seen. 

jaureguiinwhite:

if you enjoy camren’s friendship that’s fine (I know I do)

if you ship camren romantically that’s fine (I’ve read fanfics before)

if you make every single thing in the universe about camren you need to calm the heck down (not everything is about camren)

if you shove camren down fifth harmony and their friends and family’s throats regardless of how many times they’ve asked you not to you need to calm the heck down (it’s obnoxious and annoying)

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